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Title: Why we can't let Tiger Woods off the hook for alleged affairs with a 'sex addiction' defense
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nydailynews.com
URL Source: http://www.nydailynews.com/opinions ... ow_a_tiger_by_his_stripes.html
Published: Dec 9, 2009
Author: S. E. Cupp
Post Date: 2009-12-09 16:01:46 by beyond the sea
Keywords: Woods, Tiger, Perv, Sleazebag
Views: 1776
Comments: 185
In Britain's News of the World - whose editors and readers have such an insatiable appetite for sex scandals that the tabloid is fondly called "Screws of the World" - an addictions manager at North London's Priory Clinic says declaratively of a beleaguered Tiger Woods, "I see him as ill, not bad." Here it comes. Amid all the sordid details of Tiger's numerous "transgressions," we should now prepare ourselves for a forthcoming announcement by a very somber-looking Woods spokesman, or perhaps even by the golfer himself, that Tiger is, in fact, a sex addict. We can stop questioning his character, for this - we're being told - is a medical issue. No less an authority than Drew Pinsky, the host of VH1's reality show "Sex Rehab," told "Entertainment Tonight" that "it's safe to say that sex addiction might be part of his problem." Pinsky and the rest of the world are trying to help us understand what otherwise seems inconceivable: how such a rich, powerful and focused man ("and with such a beautiful wife!" some add, suggesting that ugly wives require no explanation) could risk his reputation, his fortune and his family to play the field with floozies. We can't let them get away with it. If the psychologizers win, they will allow brain chemistry, instead of free will, to co-opt habitual infidelity, thus completely and utterly absolving Woods of everything. Including driving barefoot, no doubt. And thereby absolving the rest of us of our sins. Yes, I said it: sins. The facts here are pretty simple. Woods made repeated and calculated decisions to deceive and hurt his family. For that he should get no sympathy. Pawning off bad behavior on some nebulous psychosis makes public apologies and professed remorse merely perfunctory, not sincere. In fact, that sex addiction even has a name (and its own television show) speaks volumes about our culture - and our collective psyche. The affliction may be real, but it also keeps us from acknowledging the immorality of our actions. After all, we don't call serial killers "murder addicts." Yet, anyway. Buying into the notion gives us license to embrace a psychology gap that keeps us divorced from our own behavior. Discussing a clinical condition is easier than actual soul-searching. Who needs confession when you can just be absolved through therapy and rehab? Over the past decade or two, psychologizing of this sort has become big business, crowding out so many basic moral judgments. The intelligentsia has so successfully marginalized morality to the far corners of its collective attics (where it also keeps religion) that the manic and predictable rush to medically explain immoral behavior has built a permanent, Bill Clinton-style wall separating the things we do in our private lives from who we really are. We saw a similar justification after the Fort Hood massacre, when scores of mental health experts decided from afar that Maj. Nidal Malik Hasan wasn't a hardened terrorist - he was just really, really stressed out from absorbing everyone else's stories of posttraumatic stress. The Tiger drama is of course worlds apart, in every imaginable way. But the aftermath shares the same frantic search for a simple explanation that does an end run around free will. And as for Tiger's mental health, sex addiction may just be the tip of the iceberg. In Psychology Today, Stanton Peele writes (with a whiff of that inimitable shrink's humor) that Tiger's success and stamina on the golf course may have predicted his behavior in the bedroom: "Rather than being a sex addict, the same single-mindedness, skill set and gift for robotic calculation that make Tiger Woods the world's greatest golfer make him an avatar of the bedroom." Amazing: For both his strengths and weaknesses, psychology manages to surgically remove Tiger, a man whose power and wealth have bought him more free will than most of us will ever have, from his own life. It's hardly a comforting thought. But Peele leaves us with an intriguing question. If we can blame Tiger's troubles on his addictive behavior, why don't we blame his successes on a personality disorder, too? This man is a golf addict, to be sure - he's downright obsessed. But for that he earns our praise and respect. And tons of money. Forgive me for sounding old-fashioned. But the best prescription for a long, healthy life isn't pricey rehab, therapy and psychological reprogramming. It's a clear conscience. secupp@redsecupp.com
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#1. To: All (#0)
S.E. Cupp ........ totally cool and totally correct.
If she isn't married yet, some man somewhere is not doing his job.
Here's another nice picture of her.
http://nbcsports.msnbc.com/id/34351690/ns/sports/ Elin reportedly wants to save marriage to Tiger 'She loves him and she is devastated over learning of his philandering' While more details surface about Tiger Woods's reported dalliances, the golf great's Swedish-born wife, Elin Nordegren, has yet to speak about the scandal or give any hint of her distress – beyond a frantic 911 call after her mother collapsed at Woods's Florida home Tuesday. But several sources close to the couple tell PEOPLE Nordegren, 29, was genuinely shocked by her husband's reported infidelities, and is now in deep discussions with him to see if their marriage can be saved. “She loves him and she is totally devastated over learning of his philandering,” one source close to Nordegren says. “She honestly did not know he was cheating on her.” The same source says Nordegren questioned Woods about rumors that he was having affairs, but believed his denials. "It is sort of sad that all of the golfers knew about Tiger’s cheating throughout his marriage while poor Elin believed his lies when he told her he was not seeing any other women when on the road for days at a time,” the source says. "Now that it has hit her over the head, she is going to make the best decision for her and the kids.” Story continues below ?advertisement | your ad here A smart, athletic student who passed up the chance to study child psychology in Sweden to become a nanny in the U.S., Nordegren tried hard not to lose herself in her husband's fame. But everything changed after Woods’s Nov. 27 car crash. Since then, says a source inside Woods’s camp, the couple have discussed the full breadth of Woods's infidelities. "She knows everything," says the source.
I think it's pretty safe to say that no one here has quite the same potential as a target for every temptation under the sun as "billionaire" Tiger Woods. Being a super star golfer, super rich, young and considered attractive can make resistance nearly impossible. Money and fame can be very destructive.
Yes you are right there, but may I add that the most important word in that sentence is "nearly". And beyond the temptation that fame and riches presents to some men, there is one thing about this story that pretty much sickens me, it sickens me and has me feeling very badly for the wife, Elin. There are quotes from at least three of his "conquests" out there in the news and on the internet which basically have him telling his girlies .......... "Damn, I'm glad I found you ...... sex with my wife is pretty crappy." (or) "Don't you know that our marriage is just for show?" How do you think that makes the wife feel? **** I don't care how rich and famous you are, if you cannot keep that kind of talk from your young wife's ears ...... you are simply a DIRT BAG. Tiger Woods is a DIRT BAG.
OK, and so is at least half of the American married male population. Do you think she and Tiger would be married if he were an attendant at the local car wash instead of a multi-millionaire sports idol ?
Why do you ask --- because he would have never met her in the first place ...... or because he would not have beem so "challenged by temptation"? No matter ...... it's a VERY silly question.
I'm saying they're both suffering self inflicted wounds ... he's a tramp and she's a gold digger.
She has her own money.
So did Jackie Ho when he married that toad Onassis. Didn't keep her from peddling her ass though,did it? Not only that,but now she also has Tiger's money.
Did some rich guy steal your wife or something? You don't believe wealthy people can actually fall in love or pretty women can fall in love with good-looking wealthy men? It's not always about the money. I don't know hardly anything about Tiger and his wife and their marriage, but if it was all about the money, she wouldn't care too much who he was sleeping with.
Did some rich guy steal your wife or something? No,but I've had a couple want their wives back. You don't believe wealthy people can actually fall in love Where did you get that? Of course they can. or pretty women can fall in love with good-looking wealthy men? Of course not. There is no such thing as a wealthy man who ISN'T good-looking. It's not always about the money. No,but it almost always is about the money. I don't know hardly anything about Tiger and his wife and their marriage, but if it was all about the money, she wouldn't care too much who he was sleeping with. Ever heard of VD? Ever heard of another woman taking your payday? She's a whore.If she wasn't a whore,she would have never agreed to stay with him for a specified payout of millions over the next 2 years. Millions of dollars in payoffs do NOT mean the unprotected sex with bar bitches and porn stars never happened,and if you are suddenly no longer hurt and mad enough to leave because you have paid to stay,it was never about anything other than the money from the start.
(Just asking) ........ I've seen that information/rumor around over the past days. Is there any solid documentation of that "story"?
I don't know. What I do know is there has been no denials.
For your amusement:
HAH! Who is that guy kidding? Yeah,he IS white,but he doesn't have lips blown up like a blow fish and he doesn't seem to have breast implants. No way has Tiger been humping this one. Now,if he would just dress up like OJ's boyfriend at the last Kentucky Derby and put on a blonde wig,he might have a real shot. No,not the boyfriend humping his leg. The one in the background with the dress,the big hat,and the blonde wig. OJ is clearly embarrassed about having his leg humped in public by a black midget. Maybe if the midget had of had the decency to don a blonde wig first,it might have been ok,but what would his fans think if they thought he would drop down low enough to have sex with blacks?
lol
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#4. To: beyond the sea (#1)
#59. To: echo5sierra (#4)
If she isn't married yet, some man somewhere is not doing his job.
#63. To: All (#59)
#65. To: beyond the sea (#63)
#66. To: noone222 (#65)
Being a super star golfer, super rich, young and considered attractive can make resistance nearly impossible.
#89. To: beyond the sea (#66)
Tiger Woods is a DIRT BAG.
#90. To: noone222 (#89)
Do you think she and Tiger would be married if he were an attendant at the local car wash instead of a multi-millionaire sports idol ?
#92. To: beyond the sea (#90)
#94. To: noone222 (#92)
#104. To: mel_living (#94)
She has her own money.
#123. To: sneakypete (#104)
#131. To: mel_living (#123)
#140. To: sneakypete, mel_living (#131)
She's a whore.If she wasn't a whore,she would have never agreed to stay with him for a specified payout of millions over the next 2 years.
#141. To: beyond the sea (#140)
(Just asking) ........ I've seen that information/rumor around over the past days. Is there any solid documentation of that "story"?
#144. To: sneakypete, TwentyTwelve, James Deffenbach, wudidiz (#141)
#145. To: beyond the sea (#144)
#147. To: sneakypete (#145)
Maybe if the midget had of had the decency to don a blonde wig first,it might have been ok,but what would his fans think if they thought he would drop down low enough to have sex with blacks?
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