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Title: Why we can't let Tiger Woods off the hook for alleged affairs with a 'sex addiction' defense
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nydailynews.com
URL Source: http://www.nydailynews.com/opinions ... ow_a_tiger_by_his_stripes.html
Published: Dec 9, 2009
Author: S. E. Cupp
Post Date: 2009-12-09 16:01:46 by beyond the sea
Keywords: Woods, Tiger, Perv, Sleazebag
Views: 1433
Comments: 185
In Britain's News of the World - whose editors and readers have such an insatiable appetite for sex scandals that the tabloid is fondly called "Screws of the World" - an addictions manager at North London's Priory Clinic says declaratively of a beleaguered Tiger Woods, "I see him as ill, not bad." Here it comes. Amid all the sordid details of Tiger's numerous "transgressions," we should now prepare ourselves for a forthcoming announcement by a very somber-looking Woods spokesman, or perhaps even by the golfer himself, that Tiger is, in fact, a sex addict. We can stop questioning his character, for this - we're being told - is a medical issue. No less an authority than Drew Pinsky, the host of VH1's reality show "Sex Rehab," told "Entertainment Tonight" that "it's safe to say that sex addiction might be part of his problem." Pinsky and the rest of the world are trying to help us understand what otherwise seems inconceivable: how such a rich, powerful and focused man ("and with such a beautiful wife!" some add, suggesting that ugly wives require no explanation) could risk his reputation, his fortune and his family to play the field with floozies. We can't let them get away with it. If the psychologizers win, they will allow brain chemistry, instead of free will, to co-opt habitual infidelity, thus completely and utterly absolving Woods of everything. Including driving barefoot, no doubt. And thereby absolving the rest of us of our sins. Yes, I said it: sins. The facts here are pretty simple. Woods made repeated and calculated decisions to deceive and hurt his family. For that he should get no sympathy. Pawning off bad behavior on some nebulous psychosis makes public apologies and professed remorse merely perfunctory, not sincere. In fact, that sex addiction even has a name (and its own television show) speaks volumes about our culture - and our collective psyche. The affliction may be real, but it also keeps us from acknowledging the immorality of our actions. After all, we don't call serial killers "murder addicts." Yet, anyway. Buying into the notion gives us license to embrace a psychology gap that keeps us divorced from our own behavior. Discussing a clinical condition is easier than actual soul-searching. Who needs confession when you can just be absolved through therapy and rehab? Over the past decade or two, psychologizing of this sort has become big business, crowding out so many basic moral judgments. The intelligentsia has so successfully marginalized morality to the far corners of its collective attics (where it also keeps religion) that the manic and predictable rush to medically explain immoral behavior has built a permanent, Bill Clinton-style wall separating the things we do in our private lives from who we really are. We saw a similar justification after the Fort Hood massacre, when scores of mental health experts decided from afar that Maj. Nidal Malik Hasan wasn't a hardened terrorist - he was just really, really stressed out from absorbing everyone else's stories of posttraumatic stress. The Tiger drama is of course worlds apart, in every imaginable way. But the aftermath shares the same frantic search for a simple explanation that does an end run around free will. And as for Tiger's mental health, sex addiction may just be the tip of the iceberg. In Psychology Today, Stanton Peele writes (with a whiff of that inimitable shrink's humor) that Tiger's success and stamina on the golf course may have predicted his behavior in the bedroom: "Rather than being a sex addict, the same single-mindedness, skill set and gift for robotic calculation that make Tiger Woods the world's greatest golfer make him an avatar of the bedroom." Amazing: For both his strengths and weaknesses, psychology manages to surgically remove Tiger, a man whose power and wealth have bought him more free will than most of us will ever have, from his own life. It's hardly a comforting thought. But Peele leaves us with an intriguing question. If we can blame Tiger's troubles on his addictive behavior, why don't we blame his successes on a personality disorder, too? This man is a golf addict, to be sure - he's downright obsessed. But for that he earns our praise and respect. And tons of money. Forgive me for sounding old-fashioned. But the best prescription for a long, healthy life isn't pricey rehab, therapy and psychological reprogramming. It's a clear conscience. secupp@redsecupp.com
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#2. To: beyond the sea (#0)
It is only the law that keeps most men from being sex addicted. Woods and others circumvent the law by buying what a poor man could not have. (or want)
Woods and others circumvent the law by buying what a poor man could not have. (or want) It sure is a cop out for him to claim sex addiction. Most men would fall into that category if all of their wants materialized.
Indeed. Throw in a measure of morality and most men walk the line. Woods had a history of such prior to marriage, his wife was not too bright if she figured he would give all of that up. A man with a billion dollars most often will buy everything he ever wanted, including women.
Women can be dazzled by a lot less than a billion dollars.
men too
men too You don't even need money to dazzle men - just one or two things - good food and as BTS continues to remind us, good looks. Men are so simple. ;-)
#70. To: mel_living (#69)
Well, not quite. A good attitude is required as well. Guys don't like flaming bitches, even nice looking ones that can cook. Well, I don't at least. Men are no more nor less simple than women, women just think they're complex because they sit around gabbing with each other 24/7 about their utter and indisputable wonderfulness. Truth be told, they have few real needs to be met, one simply has to frame the meeting of those needs in different ways to create the perception of complexity. My opinion, women's supposed complexity is due to women's own confusion about their own needs, combined with an emotion driven world view that, were a man to try it, would find him comitted to an insane asylum in an instant.
Just one second .... I appreciate an attractive woman ....... but I really love an intelligent attractive woman.
but ....... you do need: ....... daisies. ****
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#5. To: Cynicom (#2)
It is only the law that keeps most men from being sex addicted.
#6. To: echo5sierra (#5)
Most men would fall into that category if all of their wants materialized.
#8. To: Cynicom (#6)
A man with a billion dollars most often will buy everything he ever wanted, including women.
#22. To: echo5sierra (#8)
Women can be dazzled by a lot less than a billion dollars.
#69. To: christine, beyond the sea (#22)
Women can be dazzled by a lot less than a billion dollars.
Replies to Comment # 69. You don't even need money to dazzle men - just one or two things - good food and as BTS continues to remind us, good looks. Men are so simple. ;-)
#75. To: mel_living, christine (#69)
#80. To: mel_living, christine (#69)
You don't even need money to dazzle men -
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