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Title: Why we can't let Tiger Woods off the hook for alleged affairs with a 'sex addiction' defense
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Published: Dec 9, 2009
Author: S. E. Cupp
Post Date: 2009-12-09 16:01:46 by beyond the sea
Keywords: Woods, Tiger, Perv, Sleazebag
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Comments: 185
In Britain's News of the World - whose editors and readers have such an insatiable appetite for sex scandals that the tabloid is fondly called "Screws of the World" - an addictions manager at North London's Priory Clinic says declaratively of a beleaguered Tiger Woods, "I see him as ill, not bad." Here it comes. Amid all the sordid details of Tiger's numerous "transgressions," we should now prepare ourselves for a forthcoming announcement by a very somber-looking Woods spokesman, or perhaps even by the golfer himself, that Tiger is, in fact, a sex addict. We can stop questioning his character, for this - we're being told - is a medical issue. No less an authority than Drew Pinsky, the host of VH1's reality show "Sex Rehab," told "Entertainment Tonight" that "it's safe to say that sex addiction might be part of his problem." Pinsky and the rest of the world are trying to help us understand what otherwise seems inconceivable: how such a rich, powerful and focused man ("and with such a beautiful wife!" some add, suggesting that ugly wives require no explanation) could risk his reputation, his fortune and his family to play the field with floozies. We can't let them get away with it. If the psychologizers win, they will allow brain chemistry, instead of free will, to co-opt habitual infidelity, thus completely and utterly absolving Woods of everything. Including driving barefoot, no doubt. And thereby absolving the rest of us of our sins. Yes, I said it: sins. The facts here are pretty simple. Woods made repeated and calculated decisions to deceive and hurt his family. For that he should get no sympathy. Pawning off bad behavior on some nebulous psychosis makes public apologies and professed remorse merely perfunctory, not sincere. In fact, that sex addiction even has a name (and its own television show) speaks volumes about our culture - and our collective psyche. The affliction may be real, but it also keeps us from acknowledging the immorality of our actions. After all, we don't call serial killers "murder addicts." Yet, anyway. Buying into the notion gives us license to embrace a psychology gap that keeps us divorced from our own behavior. Discussing a clinical condition is easier than actual soul-searching. Who needs confession when you can just be absolved through therapy and rehab? Over the past decade or two, psychologizing of this sort has become big business, crowding out so many basic moral judgments. The intelligentsia has so successfully marginalized morality to the far corners of its collective attics (where it also keeps religion) that the manic and predictable rush to medically explain immoral behavior has built a permanent, Bill Clinton-style wall separating the things we do in our private lives from who we really are. We saw a similar justification after the Fort Hood massacre, when scores of mental health experts decided from afar that Maj. Nidal Malik Hasan wasn't a hardened terrorist - he was just really, really stressed out from absorbing everyone else's stories of posttraumatic stress. The Tiger drama is of course worlds apart, in every imaginable way. But the aftermath shares the same frantic search for a simple explanation that does an end run around free will. And as for Tiger's mental health, sex addiction may just be the tip of the iceberg. In Psychology Today, Stanton Peele writes (with a whiff of that inimitable shrink's humor) that Tiger's success and stamina on the golf course may have predicted his behavior in the bedroom: "Rather than being a sex addict, the same single-mindedness, skill set and gift for robotic calculation that make Tiger Woods the world's greatest golfer make him an avatar of the bedroom." Amazing: For both his strengths and weaknesses, psychology manages to surgically remove Tiger, a man whose power and wealth have bought him more free will than most of us will ever have, from his own life. It's hardly a comforting thought. But Peele leaves us with an intriguing question. If we can blame Tiger's troubles on his addictive behavior, why don't we blame his successes on a personality disorder, too? This man is a golf addict, to be sure - he's downright obsessed. But for that he earns our praise and respect. And tons of money. Forgive me for sounding old-fashioned. But the best prescription for a long, healthy life isn't pricey rehab, therapy and psychological reprogramming. It's a clear conscience. secupp@redsecupp.com
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#73. To: TwentyTwelve (#72)
funny ;)
Tiger had sex with a bajillion women because he could and he liked it and was too full of himself to care about how it might impact others like his wife and children. He's an asshole, not an addict. Addiction should be confined to the realms of true chemical dependence and true mental disorders, and it is a damned shame that so many buy into the whole faux addiction model these days. A vast majority of what we label "addiction" is in fact nothing more than rude, inconsiderate, narcissistic and boorish behavior. Very few things are addictive. Unfortunately we live in the age of the buzzword and arm-chair psychologist. --- yes. Tiger had sex with a bajillion women because he could and he liked it and was too full of himself to care about how it might impact others like his wife and children. He's an asshole, not an addict. --- Yes..... he is a major league *sshole. I hope his wife leaves him soon because she will never love him the way she had in the past. Every time he may wish to "make love" to her in the future, she will never feel at all the same about it. (jmo) Addiction should be confined to the realms of true chemical dependence and true mental disorders, and it is a damned shame that so many buy into the whole faux addiction model these days. --- Agreed.
Just one second .... I appreciate an attractive woman ....... but I really love an intelligent attractive woman.
Men are no more nor less simple than women, women just think they're complex because they sit around gabbing with each other 24/7 about their utter and indisputable wonderfulness. Truth be told, they have few real needs to be met, one simply has to frame the meeting of those needs in different ways to create the perception of complexity. My opinion, women's supposed complexity is due to women's own confusion about their own needs, combined with an emotion driven world view that, were a man to try it, would find him comitted to an insane asylum in an instant. A good attitude is required as well. Guys don't like flaming bitches, even nice looking ones that can cook. ---- yes. Men are no more nor less simple than women, women just think they're complex because they sit around gabbing with each other 24/7 about their utter and indisputable wonderfulness. ----lol My opinion, women's supposed complexity is due to women's own confusion about their own needs, combined with an emotion driven world view that, were a man to try it, would find him comitted to an insane asylum in an instant. --- LOL, right.
........ not bad.
When, oh when, will white women learn that ultimate happiness is NOT to be found in the arms of a rich nigger/mulatto sports jock? Wasn't O.J. Simpson the definitive bottom line to all this miscegenation nonsense??
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_________________________________________________________________________ but ....... you do need: ....... daisies. ****
That's just a little too simple ..... but I get your drift.
_________________________________________________________________________ LOL .......... except Janet Reno and Hillary Clinton (etc.). :-)
How do you think that makes the wife feel? I'm thinking that's going to take some splainin'. Good thing she is a whore that was hired to stick around,huh?
Absolutely! So far he has had sex with two different porn stars that we know of,and there is likely to be more pop up before it's all over. These women have unprotected sex with anything and everything several times a day,and are almost walking EPA bio-hazard sites. If his wife doesn't cut him off for at least 6 months while she has every test known to mankind done to both herself and him,she is nuts.
You sound like a real *sshole saying that. Only the people close to you MAY know whether you are a demented *sshole or not. But, for now .......... you appear just to be an ugly cynic on Elin's actual nature. For one ..... I am disappointed in your sorry, jaded personality. I know you are better than this.
EPA bio-hazard sites ---- and they fart too (carbon credits please)
Tiger Woods' Alleged Mistress Takes Precautions ((A Little Late )) TMZ Tiger Woods' alleged mistress #1 -- Rachel Uchitel -- has flipped out after learning how many women now claim to have had unprotected sex with Tiger -- and she is telling friends she will get screened for sexually transmitted diseases, stat. In short, she's doing the right thing. Friends say Rachel is particularly upset that Tiger allegedly slept with two porn stars.
OK, and so is at least half of the American married male population. Do you think she and Tiger would be married if he were an attendant at the local car wash instead of a multi-millionaire sports idol ?
Doing what's right isn't always easy but it's always right.
Why do you ask --- because he would have never met her in the first place ...... or because he would not have beem so "challenged by temptation"? No matter ...... it's a VERY silly question.
Larry Elder-----Townhall.com The Lessons of Tiger Woods "Tiger's finished." "Define 'finished,'" I said to a friend in response to her assessment. Will Tiger Woods lose endorsements? Yes. How many and for how long remain open questions. Has the carefully groomed image of the contented family man who "has it all" gone supernova? Absolutely. Will he lose his wife, given her public humiliation and her shattered trust in her husband? Strong possibility. But the history books are full of Act Twos. Going Rogue by Sarah Palin FREE Woods is a golfer. He is neither politician nor pastor. As he struggles to deal with his apparent inner demons/self-loathing/shame/embarrassment/dishonor, he can still golf. The curiosity factor alone means stratospheric ratings for his next tournament, especially if he's still contending on the final day. People unable to spell "golf" will tune in for his next event. As bad as all of this is -- especially for his wife -- Woods hasn't killed anybody, at least that we know of. The more bizarre things become -- the growing number of alleged mistresses, his mother-in-law's hospitalization, the recklessness of his behavior -- new revelations may start producing diminishing returns in shock value. People will wonder whether he's a really rotten guy with a phony stage-managed image or a really sick guy who "needs help." A friend and I recently watched a professional football game. The announcer mentioned a stellar player. My friend said, "I like him. He's amazing." I said, "Still standing, after being tried for murder." She thought I was joking. "And," I said, "he pleaded guilty to obstruction of justice for lying to the police." We Googled it. He not only lied to the police but told others to do so, as well. Former President Bill Clinton is the only elected president ever to be impeached. He pleaded guilty to contempt of court for lying under oath and temporarily lost his law license. Does Clinton draw down the window shades, only to venture out under cover of night to go to the ATM? Please. He blamed the Republicans, who wanted to "overturn elections." Defenders said, "Everybody lies about sex." Had the Constitution permitted it, Clinton could have won a third term. When Clinton first ran for president, he admitted on "60 Minutes" having had "problems with his marriage." People interpreted this to mean an acknowledgment of previous cheating with a promise to sin no more. But he did. He lied to the country about it. He lied about it under oath. Today he strolls around the globe, an elder statesman whose opinions are sought out and somberly considered. The Rev. Jesse Jackson, in the midst of Clinton's crisis, went to the White House to serve as a presidential "mentor." Jackson brought his visibly pregnant mistress, and both later posed for a group photograph in the Oval Office. When Jackson's scandal broke, he briefly closed shop. But he soon said, "The ground is no place for a champion. The ground is no place that I will wallow on." Back in business. As to former President Richard Nixon, few have fallen from so high to so low so quickly. He went from the most powerful person on earth to a guy ACORN wouldn't hire. The only U.S. president to resign, Nixon did so just ahead of an impeachment posse, with a conviction in the Senate a near certainty. After leaving office, he got paid for an interview with David Frost, wrote a bunch of books and gave speeches on foreign policy. He sufficiently redeemed himself, to the point that by former President George W. Bush's second term, many Democrats thought Bush's "crimes" worthier of impeachment than those of Nixon. As for Woods, he once had a favorable rating of nearly 85 percent. A recent poll still gave him a favorable rating of 60 percent. And Woods conceivably could even turn public opinion in his favor if he continues to excel on the golf course. "My, what an ability to focus!" etc. There are many lessons here. There is the silliness of considering celebrities, about whom we really know very little, to be "role models." There is the envy, sometimes, of the lives of others when very little is as it seems. Fortunate is the person who can look back at his or her life and say, "I would do it all again, the same way." My dad once said that to me. Most of us mortals have made mistakes, sometimes too many to count. Some mistakes have to do with career. Some have to do with money. Some have to do with other poor decisions and poor choices -- reconsidered, of course, with the benefit of hindsight. But the ones that cause the most regret and the most pain have to do with the treatment of other people -- especially those who loved and trusted us. We finally discover the value and worth of what we once had and failed to appreciate. And now it's too late. Good luck, Mr. Woods.
I'm saying they're both suffering self inflicted wounds ... he's a tramp and she's a gold digger.
Doing what's right isn't always easy but it's always right.
To be fair - I know some interracial (Black man/white woman) couples that have been together for many years. You have a good point about the wealth, but I think that goes with any wealthy couples regardless of skin color.
Happy Birthday, Jesus! Merry Christmas to everyone!
She has her own money.
Happy Birthday, Jesus! Merry Christmas to everyone!
Perfectly stated.
yep ... well said !!!
Doing what's right isn't always easy but it's always right.
I'll pay $1,000 to the first MSM reporter/reporterette who dares to ask Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton for marital advice on behalf of Elin Woods, specifically how to deal with a philandering husband.....
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AH, WTH is wrong with Tiger? Boy did he ever screw up! That woman can basically have any man she wants.
God is always good!
Tiger is more Asian than anything else. And I'm not so sure money had a lot to do with it. She is a hot model that wasn't hurting for money and could have any guy she wants.
God is always good!
Correct. She and her sister were doing quite well, $$$-wise, pre-TW.
She is a whore that is being paid millions to stay with him. What else do I need to know? I also know that you are easily fooled by appearances. Face it,VERY few high-priced whores look like Helen Thomas. Only the ones that appeal to dedicated masochists.
Who wouldn't be?
So did Jackie Ho when he married that toad Onassis. Didn't keep her from peddling her ass though,did it? Not only that,but now she also has Tiger's money.
No big scandal there. All she has to do is tell the truth. Joint numbered offshore banking accounts and seperate mansions in different parts of the country. I doubt they spend 30 days a year together.
You can bet his money,and especially his celebrity status played a major role.
They were both working as nannies when she met him. Nannies generally ain't in the upper income tax brackets.
I suspect that would never be your choice to make. Self-righteous immature uptight females like her don't interest me in the least. I'll take a MILF who's been around the block any time.
I'm sure she'd be pleased at "your passing". She's all yours. Send her an email. Feel free to include a picture of your thang. Let us know how that works out.
Woods never took any money from people by pretending to follow any particular code of conduct. That is not completely or even close to true. You have any quotes to back that up?
Here's another nice picture of her. Just accidentally "forgets" to button her blouse and sticks her chest out for the camera, but she can lecture somebody else about propriety. Right... A boobie flasher.
She kind of looks like Amanda Knox, the US exchange student in Italy recently convicted of being an accessory to a murder.
God is always good!
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#74. To: SonOfLiberty (#68)
A vast majority of what we label "addiction" is in fact nothing more than rude, inconsiderate, narcissistic and boorish behavior. Very few things are addictive. Unfortunately we live in the age of the buzzword and arm-chair psychologist.
#75. To: mel_living, christine (#69)
#76. To: SonOfLiberty, mel_living (#70)
Well, not quite. A good attitude is required as well. Guys don't like flaming bitches, even nice looking ones that can cook. Well, I don't at least.
#77. To: TwentyTwelve (#72)
#78. To: beyond the sea (#67)
"This man is Jesus,” shouted one man, spilling his Guinness as Barack Obama began his inaugural address. “When will he come to Kenya to save us?”
-Schweizerische Schuetzenzeitung (Swiss Shooting Federation) April, 1941
#79. To: SonOfLiberty (#70)
..women's own confusion about their own needs, combined with an emotion driven world view that, were a man to try it, would find him comitted to an insane asylum in an instant.
"This man is Jesus,” shouted one man, spilling his Guinness as Barack Obama began his inaugural address. “When will he come to Kenya to save us?”
-Schweizerische Schuetzenzeitung (Swiss Shooting Federation) April, 1941
#80. To: mel_living, christine (#69)
You don't even need money to dazzle men -
#81. To: X-15 (#78)
When, oh when, will white women learn that ultimate happiness is NOT to be found in the arms of a rich nigger/mulatto sports jock? Wasn't O.J. Simpson the definitive bottom line to all this miscegenation nonsense??
#82. To: beyond the sea (#80)
"This man is Jesus,” shouted one man, spilling his Guinness as Barack Obama began his inaugural address. “When will he come to Kenya to save us?”
-Schweizerische Schuetzenzeitung (Swiss Shooting Federation) April, 1941
#83. To: X-15 (#82)
Every woman loves a Dickens Cider
#84. To: beyond the sea (#66)
There are quotes from at least three of his "conquests" out there in the news and on the internet which basically have him telling his girlies .......... "Damn, I'm glad I found you ...... sex with my wife is pretty crappy." (or) "Don't you know that our marriage is just for show?"
#85. To: SonOfLiberty (#68)
Tiger had sex with a bajillion women because he could and he liked it and was too full of himself to care about how it might impact others like his wife and children. He's an asshole, not an addict.
#86. To: sneakypete (#84)
Good thing she is a whore that was hired to stick around,huh?
#87. To: sneakypete, SonOfLiberty (#85)
These women have unprotected sex with anything and everything several times a day,and are almost walking EPA bio-hazard sites.
#88. To: sneakypete, SonOfLiberty (#85)
hese women have unprotected sex with anything and everything several times a day,and are almost walking EPA bio-hazard sites. If his wife doesn't cut him off for at least 6 months while she has every test known to mankind done to both herself and him,she is nuts.
#89. To: beyond the sea (#66)
Tiger Woods is a DIRT BAG.
#90. To: noone222 (#89)
Do you think she and Tiger would be married if he were an attendant at the local car wash instead of a multi-millionaire sports idol ?
#91. To: X-15, All (#82)
#92. To: beyond the sea (#90)
#93. To: X-15 (#78)
When, oh when, will white women learn that ultimate happiness is NOT to be found in the arms of a rich nigger/mulatto sports jock? Wasn't O.J. Simpson the definitive bottom line to all this miscegenation nonsense??
#94. To: noone222 (#92)
#95. To: beyond the sea (#91)
...We finally discover the value and worth of what we once had and failed to appreciate. And now it's too late. Good luck, Mr. Woods.
#96. To: beyond the sea (#91)
We finally discover the value and worth of what we once had and failed to appreciate.
#97. To: beyond the sea, All (#91)
When Clinton first ran for president, he admitted on "60 Minutes" having had "problems with his marriage." People interpreted this to mean an acknowledgment of previous cheating with a promise to sin no more. But he did. He lied to the country about it. He lied about it under oath.
"This man is Jesus,” shouted one man, spilling his Guinness as Barack Obama began his inaugural address. “When will he come to Kenya to save us?”
-Schweizerische Schuetzenzeitung (Swiss Shooting Federation) April, 1941
#98. To: Lod (#95)
#99. To: TwentyTwelve (#98)
#100. To: X-15 (#78)
#101. To: RickyJ. all (#100)
And I'm not so sure money had a lot to do with it. She is a hot model that wasn't hurting for money and could have any guy she wants.
#102. To: beyond the sea (#86)
Only the people close to you MAY know whether you are a demented *sshole or not. But, for now .......... you appear just to be an ugly cynic on Elin's actual nature.
#103. To: beyond the sea (#88)
Friends say Rachel is particularly upset that Tiger allegedly slept with two porn stars.
#104. To: mel_living (#94)
She has her own money.
#105. To: X-15 (#97)
I'll pay $1,000 to the first MSM reporter/reporterette who dares to ask Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton for marital advice on behalf of Elin Woods, specifically how to deal with a philandering husband.....
#106. To: RickyJ (#100)
And I'm not so sure money had a lot to do with it.
#107. To: Lod, RickyJ (#101)
She and her sister were doing quite well, $$$-wise, pre-TW.
#108. To: Cynicom (#49)
If she's going to make her living sermonizing about other people's personal behavior behind closed doors, I'd pass.
#109. To: beyond the sea (#57)
If she's going to make her living sermonizing about other people's personal behavior behind closed doors, I'd pass.
#110. To: beyond the sea (#55)
#111. To: beyond the sea (#59)
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#112. To: AGAviator (#111)
#113. To: X-15 (#97)
I'll pay $1,000 to the first MSM reporter/reporterette who dares to ask Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton for marital advice on behalf of Elin Woods, specifically how to deal with a philandering husband.....
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