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Title: Why we can't let Tiger Woods off the hook for alleged affairs with a 'sex addiction' defense
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URL Source: http://www.nydailynews.com/opinions ... ow_a_tiger_by_his_stripes.html
Published: Dec 9, 2009
Author: S. E. Cupp
Post Date: 2009-12-09 16:01:46 by beyond the sea
Keywords: Woods, Tiger, Perv, Sleazebag
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Comments: 185
In Britain's News of the World - whose editors and readers have such an insatiable appetite for sex scandals that the tabloid is fondly called "Screws of the World" - an addictions manager at North London's Priory Clinic says declaratively of a beleaguered Tiger Woods, "I see him as ill, not bad." Here it comes. Amid all the sordid details of Tiger's numerous "transgressions," we should now prepare ourselves for a forthcoming announcement by a very somber-looking Woods spokesman, or perhaps even by the golfer himself, that Tiger is, in fact, a sex addict. We can stop questioning his character, for this - we're being told - is a medical issue. No less an authority than Drew Pinsky, the host of VH1's reality show "Sex Rehab," told "Entertainment Tonight" that "it's safe to say that sex addiction might be part of his problem." Pinsky and the rest of the world are trying to help us understand what otherwise seems inconceivable: how such a rich, powerful and focused man ("and with such a beautiful wife!" some add, suggesting that ugly wives require no explanation) could risk his reputation, his fortune and his family to play the field with floozies. We can't let them get away with it. If the psychologizers win, they will allow brain chemistry, instead of free will, to co-opt habitual infidelity, thus completely and utterly absolving Woods of everything. Including driving barefoot, no doubt. And thereby absolving the rest of us of our sins. Yes, I said it: sins. The facts here are pretty simple. Woods made repeated and calculated decisions to deceive and hurt his family. For that he should get no sympathy. Pawning off bad behavior on some nebulous psychosis makes public apologies and professed remorse merely perfunctory, not sincere. In fact, that sex addiction even has a name (and its own television show) speaks volumes about our culture - and our collective psyche. The affliction may be real, but it also keeps us from acknowledging the immorality of our actions. After all, we don't call serial killers "murder addicts." Yet, anyway. Buying into the notion gives us license to embrace a psychology gap that keeps us divorced from our own behavior. Discussing a clinical condition is easier than actual soul-searching. Who needs confession when you can just be absolved through therapy and rehab? Over the past decade or two, psychologizing of this sort has become big business, crowding out so many basic moral judgments. The intelligentsia has so successfully marginalized morality to the far corners of its collective attics (where it also keeps religion) that the manic and predictable rush to medically explain immoral behavior has built a permanent, Bill Clinton-style wall separating the things we do in our private lives from who we really are. We saw a similar justification after the Fort Hood massacre, when scores of mental health experts decided from afar that Maj. Nidal Malik Hasan wasn't a hardened terrorist - he was just really, really stressed out from absorbing everyone else's stories of posttraumatic stress. The Tiger drama is of course worlds apart, in every imaginable way. But the aftermath shares the same frantic search for a simple explanation that does an end run around free will. And as for Tiger's mental health, sex addiction may just be the tip of the iceberg. In Psychology Today, Stanton Peele writes (with a whiff of that inimitable shrink's humor) that Tiger's success and stamina on the golf course may have predicted his behavior in the bedroom: "Rather than being a sex addict, the same single-mindedness, skill set and gift for robotic calculation that make Tiger Woods the world's greatest golfer make him an avatar of the bedroom." Amazing: For both his strengths and weaknesses, psychology manages to surgically remove Tiger, a man whose power and wealth have bought him more free will than most of us will ever have, from his own life. It's hardly a comforting thought. But Peele leaves us with an intriguing question. If we can blame Tiger's troubles on his addictive behavior, why don't we blame his successes on a personality disorder, too? This man is a golf addict, to be sure - he's downright obsessed. But for that he earns our praise and respect. And tons of money. Forgive me for sounding old-fashioned. But the best prescription for a long, healthy life isn't pricey rehab, therapy and psychological reprogramming. It's a clear conscience. secupp@redsecupp.com
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#30. To: Lod (#28)
What???? I had a back condition, yellow stripe, but they said they could fix that. Then I told them I did not like being away from home at nite. They said they would give me a new home. Every excuse I came up with, they denied.
I say you either watch Tiger play golf or you don't. It is unfortunate people pay attention to these professional gamers when they are not playing their game. Leave the dude alone. He messed up, but it is his, his wife's and his lovers' problems, not ours.
God is always good!
Damn, I had such hopes.
"The only thing better than a Federal Reserve audit would be a Federal Reserve autopsy." ~ unknown
It was hard to do but I have a stiff resolve.
"An education isn't how much you have committed to memory, or even how much you know. It's being able to differentiate between what you know and what you don't. ~ Anatole France
I had a back condition, yellow stripe, but they said they could fix that. Then I told them I did not like being away from home at nite. They said they would give me a new home. Every excuse I came up with, they denied. Cyni - I was bleeding from top, to bottom, on this one. It was ugly.
well, i think you'd find more things, than not, where men and women have the same weaknesses and temptations. ;)
i got that ;P
"An education isn't how much you have committed to memory, or even how much you know. It's being able to differentiate between what you know and what you don't. ~ Anatole France
S.E. Cupp ........ totally cool and totally correct. Poor girl, no wonder she can't find a date. ;)
God is always good!
... Amazing: For both his strengths and weaknesses, psychology manages to surgically remove Tiger, a man whose power and wealth have bought him more free will than most of us will ever have, from his own life Really, it is none of "our" business. Woods cheated on his spouse, as lots of males do. That is his personal business. He does not cheat on the golf course. Playing golf is what the public pays to see him do and how he earns his living. Woods never took any money from people by pretending to follow any particular code of conduct. Multi billion dollar corporations threw money at him to pitch their products because they thought he was popular. Now they are not throwing money at him because they think he is not popular. He is still one of the best golfers in the world, presuming distractions in his personal life don't make him lose his proficiency. For anybody who bought something because they had a certain image of the man, that is their problem, not his. The only thing they really knew about him was he's an excellent golfer. Their mistake to think good sportsman = person meeting their expecations in non-sports matters.
If she's going to make her living sermonizing about other people's personal behavior behind closed doors, I'd pass.
By the way, every now and then she makes an appearance on "Red Eye" on FoxNews (3:00 a.m. EST). She's quite a girl.
"Like all black athletes with "crossover" appeal, whispers echoed on about "tradeoffs" and "giving back," and about it being time Tiger developed a "social conscience." A handful of sports pundits, including USA Today's Jon Saraceno and one Milwaukee Journal-Sentinel columnist, began the drumbeat: It's time Tiger use his face and his personality to hock progressive causes. "Progressive" of course means liberal. And I'd guess that all the longing for Tiger's political activism has since dried up because the evidence increasingly points to the fact that Tiger just might be - hold your breath - a Republican." I hear you.
How about a buck eighty? ;-)
Hmmm. Maybe there's a market for that (The Quick Release Underwear).
lol
Women are so impractical. LOL. I've said that a few hundred times in thirty six years of marriage to the same "neat" wife. :-)
How insane is that? ..... very.
Maybe so, but I'll bet his sex addiction is a result of his "drug addiction".
Doing what's right isn't always easy but it's always right.
I suspect that would never be your choice to make.
The girl has what I would refer to as ....... pleasant breasts. Just right. She's in great shape. She is a classically trained ballet dancer and danced for the Ellicott City Ballet, Washington Ballet and Boston Ballet for a decade. In her spare time, she is a hunter and a fan of NASCAR. --- Wiki
--------- Olde grouch. I make mine every morning, first thing I do. I sleep on one side, the cat on the other. Tell the cat to make her side of the bed then. ;-)
men and women have the same weaknesses and temptations ****
Hmmm. Which drug would do that to him?
....... well conditioned resolve you got there.
That is not completely or even close to true.
I believe he is going to be a less "proficient" golfer for some time in the near future.
I'm sure she'd be pleased at "your passing".
Meth.
Doing what's right isn't always easy but it's always right.
Here's another nice picture of her.
------- Meth I don't think that was his drug of choice. I think Tiger's "sex drug" is just adulation.
...... those were the good old days.
She's way too nice for this guy.
http://nbcsports.msnbc.com/id/34351690/ns/sports/ Elin reportedly wants to save marriage to Tiger 'She loves him and she is devastated over learning of his philandering' While more details surface about Tiger Woods's reported dalliances, the golf great's Swedish-born wife, Elin Nordegren, has yet to speak about the scandal or give any hint of her distress – beyond a frantic 911 call after her mother collapsed at Woods's Florida home Tuesday. But several sources close to the couple tell PEOPLE Nordegren, 29, was genuinely shocked by her husband's reported infidelities, and is now in deep discussions with him to see if their marriage can be saved. “She loves him and she is totally devastated over learning of his philandering,” one source close to Nordegren says. “She honestly did not know he was cheating on her.” The same source says Nordegren questioned Woods about rumors that he was having affairs, but believed his denials. "It is sort of sad that all of the golfers knew about Tiger’s cheating throughout his marriage while poor Elin believed his lies when he told her he was not seeing any other women when on the road for days at a time,” the source says. "Now that it has hit her over the head, she is going to make the best decision for her and the kids.” Story continues below ?advertisement | your ad here A smart, athletic student who passed up the chance to study child psychology in Sweden to become a nanny in the U.S., Nordegren tried hard not to lose herself in her husband's fame. But everything changed after Woods’s Nov. 27 car crash. Since then, says a source inside Woods’s camp, the couple have discussed the full breadth of Woods's infidelities. "She knows everything," says the source.
Eeenie Meenie Miney Mo Catch a Tiger With His Ho When it’s over take half his Dough Eeenie Meenie Miney Mo ****
I think it's pretty safe to say that no one here has quite the same potential as a target for every temptation under the sun as "billionaire" Tiger Woods. Being a super star golfer, super rich, young and considered attractive can make resistance nearly impossible. Money and fame can be very destructive.
Doing what's right isn't always easy but it's always right.
Yes you are right there, but may I add that the most important word in that sentence is "nearly". And beyond the temptation that fame and riches presents to some men, there is one thing about this story that pretty much sickens me, it sickens me and has me feeling very badly for the wife, Elin. There are quotes from at least three of his "conquests" out there in the news and on the internet which basically have him telling his girlies .......... "Damn, I'm glad I found you ...... sex with my wife is pretty crappy." (or) "Don't you know that our marriage is just for show?" How do you think that makes the wife feel? **** I don't care how rich and famous you are, if you cannot keep that kind of talk from your young wife's ears ...... you are simply a DIRT BAG. Tiger Woods is a DIRT BAG.
..... she is waaaay too decent for this guy. **** http://nbcsports.msnbc.com/id/34351690/ns/sports/ Elin reportedly wants to save marriage to Tiger 'She loves him and she is devastated over learning of his philandering' ************* Much more importantly: Obama's Carbon Commissars New York Post (snip) -- Who needs Congress to help govern America? Not the Obama administration, it seems. At the UN Climate Control conference in Copenhagen yesterday, Environmental Protection Agency head Lisa Jackson said that she wants to work with Congress to contain carbon emissions that her agency claims are "dangerous." "This is not an either/or moment. This is a both/and moment," Jackson said. Consider that the velvet glove covering the administration's extremist fist -- which had itself been revealed a day earlier in Washington. An Obama staffer -- speaking anonymously, of course -- told Fox News: "If [Congress doesn't] pass [emissions-control] legislation . . . the EPA is going to have to regulate in this area. And it is not going to be able to regulate in a market-based way, so it's going to have to regulate in a command-and-control way." **** http://market-ticker.org/archives/1717-Ill-Hold-You-Down-And.....html I'll Hold You Down And.... ... pour used oil in your mouth. Well, not literally. But Congress might, if the EPA doesn't cut this crap out: The Obama administration is warning Congress that if it doesn't move to regulate greenhouse gases, the Environmental Protection Agency will take a "command-and-control" role over the process in a way that could hurt business. The warning, from a top White House economic official who spoke Tuesday on condition of anonymity, came on the eve of EPA Administrator Lisa Jackson's address to the international conference on climate change in Copenhagen, Denmark. Oh really? Did you forget, Lisa, where your operating budget comes from? That would be Congress. Guess who can close your agency - in an afternoon? That would be Congress. Threatening them - assuming this isn't just more kabuki theater intended to divert public anger from the skull- that is about to be served upon them - is rather unwise. Should this not be just another game of misdirection and should Congress (e.g. Sensenbrenner and other reasonable minds on The Capitol - clearly in the minority, but heh, there are a few) decide that your pie hole makes a good used oil receptacle I'll drain my CO2-producing boat engines just to make sure they have plenty to use for this purpose. I wouldn't want the dirty oil to be in them, you know..... ****
A vast majority of what we label "addiction" is in fact nothing more than rude, inconsiderate, narcissistic and boorish behavior. Very few things are addictive. Unfortunately we live in the age of the buzzword and arm-chair psychologist. Tiger had sex with a bajillion women because he could and he liked it and was too full of himself to care about how it might impact others like his wife and children. He's an asshole, not an addict. Addiction should be confined to the realms of true chemical dependence and true mental disorders, and it is a damned shame that so many buy into the whole faux addiction model these days.
MapQuest really needs to start their directions on #5. Pretty sure I know how to get out of my neighborhood.
men too You don't even need money to dazzle men - just one or two things - good food and as BTS continues to remind us, good looks. Men are so simple. ;-)
Happy Birthday, Jesus! Merry Christmas to everyone!
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#31. To: beyond the sea (#0)
#32. To: Original_Intent, christine (#29)
It makes it hard to remember that I'm supposed to be a gentleman. ;-)
#33. To: farmfriend (#32)
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#34. To: Cynicom (#30)
What????
#35. To: X-15 (#26)
#36. To: Original_Intent, farmfriend (#33)
#37. To: christine, farmfriend (#36)
#38. To: beyond the sea (#1)
Author: S.E. Cupp
#39. To: beyond the sea (#0)
We can't let Tiger Woods off the hook for alleged affairs with a 'sex addiction...
#40. To: RickyJ (#38)
Poor girl, no wonder she can't find a date. ;)
#41. To: echo5sierra (#4)
#42. To: X-15 (#7)
I figured it all out: because Tiger Woods isn't down for the DEMOCRATIC agenda:
#43. To: echo5sierra (#10)
I meant they could be dazzled by a lot less money.
#44. To: Cynicom, echo5sierra, Lod, X-15, Samuel Gray, Critter, christine, Original_Intent (#11)
All of the women squired by Woods have something similar. They see green, their eyes light up, they hit the quick release on their underwear and the action begins.
#45. To: Lod (#12)
Whatever he may be, Tiger is no foot-tapper.
#46. To: Esso (#15)
Yeah, my wife's always wanting to sweep the floors and wash clothes & stuff. I tell her, "Why bother? It's just going to get dirty again."
#47. To: Lod (#17)
My gripe is making the bed every day, just to have to unmake it each evening.
#48. To: beyond the sea (#0)
that Tiger is, in fact, a sex addict.
#49. To: AGAviator (#40)
If she's going to make her living sermonizing about other people's personal behavior behind closed doors, I'd pass.
#50. To: Critter (#18)
I wonder what size cupp?
#51. To: Cynicom, Lod (#19)
My gripe is making the bed every day, just to have to unmake it each evening.
#52. To: christine, X-15 (#35)
well, i think you'd find more things, than not, where men and women have the same weaknesses and temptations. ;)
#53. To: noone222 (#48)
Maybe so, but I'll bet his sex addiction is a result of his "drug addiction".
#54. To: Original_Intent, christine (#33)
It was hard to do but I have a stiff resolve.
#55. To: AGAviator (#39)
Woods never took any money from people by pretending to follow any particular code of conduct.
#56. To: AGAviator (#39)
He is still one of the best golfers in the world, presuming distractions in his personal life don't make him lose his proficiency.
#57. To: AGAviator (#40)
If she's going to make her living sermonizing about other people's personal behavior behind closed doors, I'd pass.
#58. To: beyond the sea (#53)
Which drug would do that to him?
#59. To: echo5sierra (#4)
If she isn't married yet, some man somewhere is not doing his job.
#60. To: noone222, christine (#58)
Which drug would do that to him?
#61. To: christine, mel_living, palo verde (#35)
#62. To: All (#61)
#63. To: All (#59)
#64. To: Cynicom (#2)
Woods and others circumvent the law by buying what a poor man could not have. (or want)
#65. To: beyond the sea (#63)
#66. To: noone222 (#65)
Being a super star golfer, super rich, young and considered attractive can make resistance nearly impossible.
#67. To: All, christine, mel_living, palo verde, echo5sierra, noone222, Original_Intent, Critter, Lod, Samuel Gray, sneakypete, RickyJ, farmfriend, X-15 (#63)
#68. To: beyond the sea (#0)
#69. To: christine, beyond the sea (#22)
Women can be dazzled by a lot less than a billion dollars.
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