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Title: Commentary: Jill Scott Talks Interracial Dating
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Published: Apr 12, 2011
Author: Jill Scott
Post Date: 2011-05-12 13:09:14 by X-15
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Views: 477
Comments: 36
My new friend is handsome, African-American, intelligent and seemingly wealthy. He is an athlete, loves his momma, and is happily married to a White woman. I admit when I saw his wedding ring, I privately hoped. But something in me just knew he didn't marry a sister. Although my guess hit the mark, when my friend told me his wife was indeed Caucasian, I felt my spirit...wince. I didn't immediately understand it. My face read happy for you. My body showed no reaction to my inner pinch, but the sting was there, quiet like a mosquito under a summer dress. Was I jealous? Did the reality of his relationship somehow diminish his soul's credibility? The answer is not simple. One could easily dispel the wince as racist or separatist, but that's not how I was brought up. I was reared in a Jehovah's Witness household. I was taught that every man should be judged by his deeds and not his color, and I firmly stand where my grandmother left me. African people worldwide are known to be welcoming and open-minded. We share our culture sometimes to our own peril and most of us love the very notion of love. My position is that for women of color, this very common "wince" has solely to do with the African story in America. When our people were enslaved, "Massa" placed his Caucasian woman on a pedestal. She was spoiled, revered and angelic, while the Black slave woman was overworked, beaten, raped and farmed out like cattle to be mated. She was nothing and neither was our Black man. As slavery died for the greater good of America, and the movement for equality sputtered to life, the White woman was on the cover of every American magazine. She was the dazzling jewel on every movie screen, the glory of every commercial and television show. She was unequivocally the standard of beauty for this country, firmly unattainable to anyone not of her race. We daughters of the dust were seen as ugly, nappy mammies, good for day work and unwanted children, while our men were thought to be thieving, sex-hungry animals with limited brain capacity. We reflect on this awful past and recall that if a Black man even looked at a White woman, he would have been lynched, beaten, jailed or shot to death. In the midst of this, Black women and Black men struggled together, mourned together, starved together, braved the hoses and vicious police dogs and died untimely on southern back roads together. These harsh truths lead to what we really feel when we see a seemingly together brother with a Caucasian woman and their children. That feeling is betrayed. While we exert efforts to raise our sons and daughters to appreciate themselves and respect others, most of us end up doing this important work alone, with no fathers or like representatives, limited financial support (often court-enforced) and, on top of everything else, an empty bed. It's frustrating and it hurts! Our minds do understand that people of all races find genuine love in many places. We dig that the world is full of amazing options. But underneath, there is a bite, no matter the ointment, that has yet to stop burning. Some may find these thoughts to be hurtful. That is not my intent. I'm just sayin'.
Poster Comment: Reverse the races and ask yourself if this woman would have ANY public career left after the resulting MSM-lynching??
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#11. To: X-15 (#0)
She sure is just saying a lot. It goes both ways, not many black men care for white men dating black women either. Interracial couples are either dense, or really in love with each other to put up with what they have to put up with to be together. Diversity is preached as a good thing for Gentiles by the Jews, but you won't see Jews with the same diversity, nope, they think they are too damn good for that. ;)
That, or they're too smart for it. Who needs the hassle and the half-breed kids?
Evidently THIS couple felt it "worth the hassle" till they were viciously beat, tortured, raped, and shot to death by a gang of REAL niggers. The perps...
Some, of all races, who walk among us are truly sub-human. And should be dealt with accordingly.
And should be dealt with accordingly. Yes, but on the same token, what would have been the media reaction if the above couple had been a white woman and a black man, and if the perps had been white? When is the last time a racially motiviated white on black crime has occured, yet the media (and government) portrays "racism" as something only white people can be guilty of, shrugging their shoulders when clear evidence is presented to the contrary. How many neighborhoods should black people avoid as opposed to the ones white people should avoid? I remember reading here not long ago how people remember back in the 50's, black people were very family orientated and were not any more likely to commit a crime than the average person. Over the decades, with all of this deliberate "some people are more equal than others" entitlement mentality seen in practice, while preaching equal rights for all, the inner city black population has degenerated into what it has become today. Similar to the brainwashing seen in Wahhabi based schools over in the Middle East, blacks have been generationally programmed to hate whites. Things will NOT get better until the matter is addressed fairly and honestly, and equality is truly set into play, rather than given lip service while discriminating against people based on race, ie. Affirmative Action policies.
Well said - thanks. I was taught, back when, that it's human nature for every group to need some other group to look down upon. I've seen nothing yet to discredit this theory.
#21. To: Lod (#19)
I've seen nothing yet to discredit this theory. Yeah, that's sad but true. There ARE those who can get past that, or are not AS prone to inflicting suffering on their perceived subordinates, but they are the minority. Look at how most cops treat "civilians" as an example, or how armies behave in occupied territory.
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#12. To: RickyJ (#11)
#13. To: Lod (#12)
Who needs the hassle and the half-breed kids?
#14. To: FormerLurker (#13)
#16. To: Lod (#14)
Some, of all races, who walk among us are truly sub-human.
#19. To: FormerLurker (#16)
Replies to Comment # 19. I was taught, back when, that it's human nature for every group to need some other group to look down upon.
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