Intelligent women don't hang around in bars or date or marry controlling men who disrespect themselves and women. These women are very discerning when it comes to men. They completely avoid the bar scene, speed-dating, online match-making. They do background checks on the men and generally marry men who are well-educated, as the women, and have a sense of proper social etiquette and sincerely want to be in a meaningful long-term relationship. These women also observe how these men treat their mothers and other women during the dating or courting phase.