The Jewish Encyclopedia,1925 edition, vol. 5, p. 41, says:"Edom is in ModernJewery." The Esau-Edomite nation ... "Thus dwelt Esau in Mount Seir; Esau is Edom."
The word used for hate in Malachi 1 is a Hebrew idiom which actually means to love less.
Keep telling yourself that. I know it must not feel good to have scripture not line up with your beliefs, but that is the way it is. Jakob Arminius invented what you believe in the 16th century. Jesus did not die for every soul that has ever lived. He died for his elect, which can not be numbered.